What really matters?


Everyone wrestles with this question, and the answer is unique to everyone.


Let’s start off by saying that the answer isn’t “42” as Douglas Adams would say. It’s a little more complicated than that. Figuring out what is most important in life can be a deeply personal and subjective process, as everyone’s values, priorities, and life circumstances are different. However, here are some steps you can take to help you identify what is most important to you:

  1. Reflect on your values: Start by thinking about what values are most important to you. Consider things like honesty, kindness, family, friendship, health, financial security, personal growth, and spirituality. Make a list of your top values and think about how they impact your life.
  2. Identify your priorities: Next, think about the things that you prioritize in your life, such as your relationships, career, hobbies, or personal goals. Consider how much time and energy you devote to each of these areas, and whether they align with your values.
  3. Reflect on your goals: Think about your short-term and long-term goals, and consider whether they align with your values and priorities. If you’re not sure what your goals are, take some time to reflect on what you want to achieve in your life.
  4. Consider your life circumstances: Your life circumstances can also play a role in determining what is most important to you. For example, if you have children, your family may be a top priority. If you’re dealing with a health issue, your health may be a top priority.
  5. Prioritize self-reflection: Finally, make time for self-reflection on a regular basis. Check in with yourself and ask yourself whether your actions and decisions align with what is most important to you. If they don’t, consider making changes to your life that will help you align your priorities with your values and goals.

Remember, that the answer to this question isn’t the same for everyone. (It might be 39, 41, or even 43 for you!) You are different from everyone else – and likewise your goals and priorities are different too. Just remember to take your time.

This isn’t a race and there is no ‘right answer.’